etty’s Blog

             

              Alright, we all have friends right? Everybody at least needs somebody in their life. Besides parents, girlfriends, boyfriends we do need friends. Since I traveled a lot when i was a child, childhood memory remains in my mind. I do appreciate what I had gone through, the people that I have met, and also the emotional situation when we have to say “good bye”. I learn a lot, new environment new culture, new location, and definitely new friends.First I think it is disaster, I hate it very much. But later, especially now I think it is great, it is wonderful, it is valuable experience.

              For me, it is easy to make new friends, it is easy to say “hello” or “hai” to strangers, but the most critical part is how we want to maintain our friendship, how we are going to make our friendship last forever, trust me. It was hard. It was difficult. “A friend in need is a friend in deed” it is the wonderful proverb that I always convince myself that I should always be polite, kind, generous, understanding to my friends. I try my best to “be there” to my beloved friends, always lend my hand to my friends if the have problem, I have to be a good listener to them, keep their secrets, and sometimes give suggestion, advice on how to solve their problem.

             If we are housemates, or even roommates, (yeah, this is for my girl friends) we share a lot more stuff. We share foods, shoes, cloths and sometimes we share bed. We sleep together, have a morning cit cat together and hang out together.

 Thus, I really appreciate my friendship; I want to make my friendship long lasting. I’ll work hard to make it happen and I wish my friends would think in the same way too. I have several expectations on how my friendship matters might be in the future. My expectations is more or less like this,

 

-      My life partner likes my friends, and my friends like my partner. Win-  win situation. Comfort Zone. Easy. Because, for happy life I need both!

 

-      I hope that my boyfriend, or husband will understand and agree that I still need by friends even though I am in relationship or married. (In future for sure).

 

-      I want my life partner give me some space for ONLY me + friends.

 

-      Husband, Please do not get jealous easily with me, I just want to have fun, spending my life with my friends, or buddy for a WHILE. Rather than spending 25 hours with you ALONE!

 

-      My friendships are long lasting, we still hang out together, have a great cit cat, doesn’t matter men, or women. My best buddy.

 

-      I admired the quality of friendship from the serial drama that I had watched, One Tree Hill. Ahaks! Wonderful friendship, great personal life.

 

-      I have a great girls friend, good listener, secrete keeper, problem helper, yeah I really appreciate my girl’s talk moment!

 

-      I admired the friendship that “Desperate Housewives” have too.

 

-      I hope that my friends and I will exchange visits, and continuously for the rest of my life.

 

-      Sometimes, I want to go to the vacation, with my girls’ friend. (I admit, If want to go with my boy friends or a men friends. Husband must follow me! Agreed! That why I said “girls friend”. Great huh! Campus life DEJAVU.

  

      Hurm. That is more or less what I have expected. What I want in my friendship would be. Is it impossible?  Am I asking too much? Definitely not! I don’t think so. I think, with a great partner who understand me, will soon understand why I made this kind of expectation. Why not?

      Huge house, Imported Cars, Branded Cloths, Homemade Handbags, Cash Money, Great Jobs, or even a masculine husband will not ensure that I will be the happiest woman in this world. As usual, people sometimes will not easily satisfy with what they have. At least for now, I know what I want. Wonderful Friendship!

 

 

 

 

While I’m updating this blog/ writing this topic I’m actually satisfied with my Eid Mubarak celebration. Hari Raya Aidilfitri. Yes, I am happy with what I have gone through this holiday. For me, when it come to “Hari Raya” I defined it as,

 

-       I manage to get off day and rest day, included Public Holiday, also I should apply more annual leave for “hari raya”. Everything will be a disaster if I do not get any off day, or worst I have to work on “hari  raya”.

       Thus, this is the most critical part. “Hari Raya = Holiday = Off  Day”

 

-      I want to be with my family, more or less my nucleus family ( my dad, my mom, my little bro) on the 1^st Syawal. If I’m not with them, im definitely not happy.

 

-      My family and I, will travel for at least 7 hours to my parent’s hometown.. “Balik Kampung” is a must!  When there is celebration for  “Hari Raya”, we must going back. If not, there is a meaningless “Hari  Raya”.

 

-      I must have several “baju raya” included “baju kurung” that I can wear it on the 1^st Syawal. If there is no “baju raya”, thus there is no “raya” for me!

 

-      I will go to mosque, to do some prayer.( Solat Sunat Aidilfitri) together with my family. I’ll go to the nearest mosque. If I’m period, I’m staying at home, be a kitchen helper.

 

-      Sit at the living room or my parents bedroom ( or wherever ), prepare to forgiveness from  my parents, admit all mistake that I ever did before, say sorry for everything. And great! My parents still gave “duit raya” to me, until now!

 

-      Then, starts meeting other relative, seek forgiveness from them. ( grandparents, uncle, auntie and bla bla bla). At the moment I may get more duit raya from them. Also, I help my parents spread away their envelopes ( fill in with duit raya). I’m looking forward for this moment every “ hari raya”.

 

-      I will go to grave. Reciting a prayer to the dead people. My relative, my family. Wishing a peaceful life to them. Another Life. “Alam Bazarkh”. This is the time that I will recall the memories that I had spend with them, get a lesson that everyone in this world will dies, only the time matters.

 

-      I’ll visit my other relatives. Say “hello” to them, cit cat a bit, have some updates about our own life, family, share a latest story about another relative and spends our time together, and promise that we will meeting each other again soon!

 

-      I’ll go to my friend’s open house, spend some time with them, since we are not meeting each other for long time (because of the hard work, too focus on personal life), thus, this will be a great opportunity to get some updates about them.

      ( I miss my friends a lot)

 

 

Yeah, that’s what I defined my “hari raya” and my “hari raya” will be unusual, different, boring, meaningless without all those thing.

Yes, at least for this year I managed to get everything that I want, everything that I defined my “hari raya” would be. And I am happy for it.